Baby Stanley’s story and how respite centre at Arrowe Park Hospital helped his family

Ronald McDonald House at Arrowe Park Hospital is situated inside the hospital grounds and provides respite for families quite literally seconds from their sick child’s bed.

birkenhead.news was invited along for a tour of the building and to see what happens there by Philippa Bradbury, who is a Ronald McDonald House Junior Community Fundraiser.

Ronald McDonald House at Arrowe Park has provisions for the families of babies on the neonatal unit. Some families in need of this speciality care at the hospital travel long distances to visit their children. Ronald McDonald House Arrowe Park provides suites for the parents so that they don’t have to travel more often than is necessary.

Philippa said, “Some people are travelling hundreds of miles, even if you’re only travelling 40 miles and your child’s severely unwell, it’s a long way to be travelling. You’ve got the cost involved with that, the time involved with that, and the stress involved with that.” And this is where Ronald McDonald House can help.

There is evidence that having a family nearby helps; “the children tend to recover better when their family is close by”, Philippa explains.

“Even if you’re a 14-year-old, hospitals are scary and the thought of knowing your parents are nearby can be reassuring,” she continued. Their families also know that they are literally steps away if they want to visit.

Philippa (Left) with House Assistant, Kristy and House Manager, Katy at Ronald McDonald House, Arrowe Park Hospital.

As well as having a bedroom and bathroom for each of the visiting families, there is also a well-appointed communal kitchen and living area. When birkenhead.news visited, it was lunchtime and there were two families making lunch and another remote-working on their laptops in the living area. “It’s a kind of home-from-home for the families,” Philippa said.

The communal spaces have the added benefit that the families will get to know each other. Philippa told us that the families are all in the same situation and they naturally form their own support networks between themselves – there’s always someone to speak to if needed.

“We’re not just a place to stay,” Phillipa said. “We go out of our way to try and make the families feel as at home as possible. We have a dedicated team and their job is to look after whatever the family’s needs are.”

These needs could be a shoulder to cry on or just having a chat. “That happens regularly.”, Philippa tells us. But also the house team will put on events for the families. At the time of our visit, arrangements were in place for a tea party for the families to come together and enjoy themselves. The team also goes the extra mile on special occasions that can be difficult; Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Christmas and birthdays.

Running Ronald McDonald House is an expensive business and it receives no money from central government. The team and families have to rely on the generosity of individuals and corporate sponsors.

Businesses, communities, or individuals can sponsor bedrooms and take part in fundraising events. Ronald McDonald House also host special events such as golf days, gala dinners, and challenges. “We have this challenge called the £50 challenge, which is where we give you £50 pounds and we’ve got five weeks to turn it into £500 – you can do it literally however you want!”

Stanley’s Story

Baby Stanley

Stanley was baby number four.

My brother had been unwell, so I went to my mums to look after him when suddenly my water broke at 31 weeks. In pregnancy, a premature baby is born anything before 37 weeks. I was in shock.

We rushed to Arrowe Park Hospital. It’s only about three and a half miles from where we live, so we’re local to the area, but that journey felt like a lifetime.

My premature baby Stanley was taken straight to the neonatal intensive care unit (NICU) and put on a ventilator. I laid there in the maternity ward wondering if my baby was alright.

Baby Stanley.

On day five, I was discharged. But the prospect of going home without Stanley and him staying in the hospital on his own terrified me. I just presumed mums were able to stay in the NICU with their babies. I had no idea.

While visiting Stanley on the ward, one of the Sisters mentioned Ronald McDonald House Arrowe Park. It sounded too good to be true. Due to Covid-19, places were limited and families from far away need to be prioritised. I completely understood why, but I just prayed I would get a place.

The following day, she said a room was available for me.

I knocked on the door hesitantly and Emma the House Assistant let me in.

I said, “Do you have a room for me?” and when she confirmed she did, I just wanted to hug her (and I would have done it if not for Covid!). I felt a huge wave of relief that I would be allowed to stay close with my new baby – something I had previously taken completely for granted. Mums should always be allowed to stay with their babies. The thought of not having Ronald McDonald House still upsets me now. I’m beyond grateful.

I showed my partner, Dave, and the children around the house when they arrived and was thrilled to see the joy on their faces.

Over the next five weeks, we made Ronald McDonald House Arrowe Park our home. We had so many occasions that just made our stay that little bit special. On Dave’s birthday, we ordered pizza for the whole family and the House staff gave him a gift and balloons. It was such a lovely thought and made it even more special.

Pizza night for Dave’s Birthday.

On Father’s Day, all the dads enjoyed breakfast together and were given gifts. It sounds little, but those moments mean a lot when you can’t be at home together celebrating.

Father’s Day at Ronald McDonald House.

On a Friday, my other son George would come to stay with me, and we’d watch a comedy and have some dinner together, but one night I was really missing my other two children, Albert and Ruby, and Dave was able to bring them up on the bus for a last-minute sleepover.

Without a doubt, Ronald McDonald House positively impacted our family. We didn’t have to waste precious time travelling to and from the hospital daily. I would have been relying on lifts and buses – it would have torn us all apart.

Baby Stanley with mum and dad.

And not only that, but I was breastfeeding Stanley. Being able to stay with him day and night to feed was only possible thanks to the Ronald McDonald House. We formed a close bond in those early days where I was able to hold him at 2am and 4am.

It was overwhelming to leave the House after five weeks. I was sad, but forever grateful that such a home exists for families. I have lovely memories, even though it was a difficult time.

Sleep time!

I wouldn’t ever want to think about what we would do if we didn’t have Ronald McDonald House Charities UK. It would have been impossible, but more than that, it would have been unbearable. I wouldn’t have been able to sleep at home knowing Stanley was alone in the hospital and I wasn’t there with him. I would have been in a constant state of rushing to the hospital and then rushing home to the kids. I wouldn’t have been able to relax for even a second.

The Ronald McDonald Houses are priceless to families.

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https://rmhc.org.uk/our-houses/arrowe-park-house/

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